Taking my family with me to Florida for the IWLCA Annual Meeting and Presidents Cup tournament was such an amazing opportunity. I am so blessed to work with an organization that truly cares about all of its members. A membership that recognizes the hardships on our families that come with our job, in the name of an amazing coach and mother, with the Kristina Quigley scholarship. My girls are still talking about our trip to West Palm Beach. We made memories that will last forever, and I am so thankful to this community for that!
During our trip I found myself struggling with the same things I struggle with while in season. Of course my three year old would get a mysterious rash as soon as we land in Florida. Go figure my video presentation wouldn’t have sound. Smooth move on my part to schedule field 1 and field 45 during the same game time while my assistant was on maternity leave. This is life! One thing I learned after one of my hardest seasons as a college coach is, you can’t sweat the small stuff. You need to take a step back and reflect on how blessed you really are. My three-year-old got some meds, had the time of her life and didn’t care that she looked like a polka dot princess. Thankfully, at this point in my career, I’m used to technology working against me, so I printed my speech! Luckily, I am a member of the best college coach association and we film our games, so I can act like I didn’t miss a thing. It’s all about the way you look at it.
There are always going to be “those days” if you are a coach and a parent. I am finally at the point in my life where I know it’s okay to take time for myself. I am a better parent and coach because of it. I encourage those of you who don’t take time for yourself to start doing it now! Whether it’s a workout, a hobby, or meditation, take the time for YOU! I promise you; you won’t regret it. Being a coach and parent is all about balance. It’s tough work, but it’s so worth it!
We are all so fortunate to be able to do what we do. Whether you have children of your own at home or not, we all have 20-40 young ladies that rely on us every day. We have the opportunity to help them grow not only on the lacrosse field, but in life. We are the person they come to when they are sick or injured and their parents aren’t there. Their toughest critics, yet their biggest supporters. We get to have an impact on their lives and that is a special thing. Being a college lacrosse coach, we get to learn from these young women every day as well. I learn so much each and every season. Every day on the field or in the office is something new. Not many people can say that about their profession.
My hope is that each and every one of you can find the silver lining when things might get difficult this season. That you can find the perfect balance for yourselves, your family and your team. That you can go through this season with the same passion, commitment and values with your team and your family, as Kristina did.